‘Don’t want to get married?’
‘You would be a great mum! Don’t you want to have kids one day?’
‘Don’t you miss having a boyfriend?’
‘It would have been even better to share this adventure with someone, don’t you think?’
‘Do you really enjoy being on your own all the time?’
‘Being alone is not a life, don't you think?’
These are genuine questions I get to be asked quite often since the day I bought Rafiki, early 2021.
I am not judging these interrogations since we’re all different with different tempers, past, education, projects, dreams, fears,…lives.
I prepared this expedition and embarked on this overland journey on my own because I was single at the time, and that I refused to wait for someone coming my way to realise my dream. I worked hard, I saved money as much as I could, I got rid of many useless stuffs, I bought my 4x4 and geared it up; I was finally ready to quite my European life to go back to Africa.
This was the way it was. I do not want to find someone to ‘be with someone’. And I never wanted so. I do not think we ‘need’ someone but to ‘love’ someone. I do not need anyone in my life. However, I’ve always been open to destiny to one day meet that special soul to be unable to explain why they are a special soul. I don’t think humans can stay alone forever anyway.
But why worrying about this? Why should we force destiny to avoid our own company? Why compromising inner desires and secret childhood dreams to please society? To match irrational standards? Or to fulfil personal fears?
I do not have time for that. I do not want to regret anything. I do not want to reach that situation where you overthink your past life and say, ‘I would have loved to live this or to do that’.
I just do not want to cheat on my heart. And if I’ll have to wait years, I will wait all this time. Love has no age but a right timing. And happiness comes from within first.
So today, NO, I do not have time to consider these matters yet. Today, I am so happy in this solo expedition across Africa, where I haven’t felt lonely yet.
Today, more than ever, I trust life and destiny. And I think my heart knows the way.
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